It’s not difficult for someone to feel worthless if they’ve been treated as second option quite a few times. It’s more like weaved into your routine, you never know when this horrible cycle would end. People keep on telling you to focus on yourself instead of focusing on being in a relationship but each and every time you end up getting badly hurt. It’s okay to be the supporting character instead of the main character sometimes. But the constant support role and not being the led can be really bad for your self-esteem. No matter how hard you try you always end up being the second option, due to your weird luck. Guys treat you more as a rebound girl or a second option for in case their first option won’t work out. They see you as only the one to be with for a while instead of lifetime. The thing is that you might think it’s okay to be the second option as it is better than having nothing. You have to know that you are not worth being treated as the second option, you deserve to be the leading lady and there’s no way in hell that you should settle as a second option.
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It’s anything but difficult to become involved with something since you need to be loved and cared for; we’re just human and being helpless is something that’s in our nature, we just want to be loved by someone and it can make us hurt our own self-esteem. In any case, there has to be a time when you stop thinking that it’s okay to be a rebound for someone or be their second choice, or not the number being one in anybody’s book. It’s not beneficial when you begin to feel like you can’t satisfy their desires, and it’s that it is alright to be sufficiently “great” for somebody. In any case, that is insane. In the distance, you are not sufficiently “great” – you are all that anyone could need. You deserve the stars and the moon, you deserve all the attention and priority, somebody is holding up to meet you and succumb to you on great, long-term terms. Don’t break yourself away and waste your worth on someone who doesn’t see all the things that you are. Wait for the one who would make you his priority, make your wishes his command, who would not think of his life without you and for whom everything else comes second to you. Just don’t waste yourself away. Kindly don’t be somebody’s second decision, don’t be with someone who priorities everything over you. You will never be able to see how amazing and wonderful you are if you constantly be okay with a second option treatment. You will see yourself through the eyes of this individual who is just passing time with you, who is upsetting your feelings and making you lose your self-worth totally. Your other half should be somebody who draws out the best in you. Why in the world would you need to be encompassed by a shallow individual who is loaded with antagonism and all the wrong expectations? Who needs to be related to somebody who had vain thinking behind everything? Just ask yourself why would you be okay with being in such a relationship. It definitely is better to be alone than being with someone who cannot see you for who you are.
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I repeat, again and again, don’t be someone’s second option, since you are excellent and matter just as much as any other girl would There is somebody who might be listening for everybody on the planet, and I will dependably differ with the people who say they will be separated from everyone else everlastingly or that they will never discover somebody, making them settle on being the second decision. I know the feeling of being alone is big enough to scare you and settle for less. It will be justified, despite all the trouble. It would be ideal if you comprehend that there is more out there than where you at present remain. Try not to be somebody’s second decision since it is an exercise in futility and exercise for somebody who eventually doesn’t even really think about you. Trust me it’s not as scary as it sounds, you can be out there on your own, meeting new individuals, and might even find the one who would love you and adore you just like you deserve. The sky is the limit. Be that as it may, kindly don’t squander your opportunity on individuals you know are nothing but trouble. Time is valuable and you just have such a large amount of it, so attempt to influence the most to out of it and escape those shallow people who don’t see you for who you are and just use you for their own selfish reasons
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Don’t be a second option for anyone, you have so much to offer, you can do so much more, be with someone worth being with. You’re capable, keen, amazing, and genius. There is no one like you out there, and it’s awful simply realizing that you would just be okay with settling for so much less than you deserve. You are a decent individual who deserves all the happiness and love, and you should not place yourself in these unfair circumstances. I feel that a standout amongst the essential things in this life is to begin able to look all starry eyed at ourselves in the first place, and afterward discover somebody who reminds us every day about how stunning we are, simply because that guy is the cool and who we cherish or have a crush on. Try not to stick around for somebody who endures you for the wrong reasons, who isn’t actually present there mentally and don’t really love you and adore you for who you are, or doesn’t value your amazing personality and uniqueness.