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After those happy and joyous moments, there comes a time in all the relationships that you catch yourself in the moment where you start doubting, whether the other person you are with is better for you or not. You may not be sure about spending the rest of your life with the woman by your side. Well if you are stuck in this limbo, then you are not alone. Many people are stuck in such doubts and many researchers have put up a lot of hard work in understanding such complicated issues regarding love and relationships. They are spending an immense amount of time in understanding and explaining of how relationships work and what traits make the right partner for you.

1. She is more intelligent than you

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If you want to live a longer life, marry an intelligent woman. While looking for a life partner, look for the woman who is smarter than you. Finding a smart partner would be only beneficial for you as she will keep challenging you intellectually and will keep your brain on your toes. You will cope up with her intelligence and will keep your mind keen.

2. Honesty is the best policy

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Everyone makes wrong decisions in life but important thing is to accept those mistakes and keep going on with life rather than sulking and giving a full stop to your life. This becomes more possible when you have the right woman by your side who keeps you on the right side and is honest enough to tell you when and where you did wrong. Such women is a keeper, never let her go!

3. She is full of positivity

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Negative people always pull you down in life and they will never boost up your morale. We as humans tend to adopt the attitude of the person unconsciously we are with. If you are with the woman who constantly see negativity, you might also become one of those people who are never happy because what they always see around them is negativity and no positivity. If the woman you are with spreads positivity around you then you are lucky, you have found the right partner for yourself.

4. She will compromise for the better

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All relationships will remain standing on the ground if they follow the rule of compromising in difficult situations. Life is never fair but you can live a happy life if both partners in a relationship are willing to compromise. If anything goes wrong and the woman you are with tries to keep up with the relationship and makes the possible sacrifices then she is the woman you should never let go off.

5. She laughs at your humor

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Well humor is an essential part of life, without it you might face boredom. Everyone wants a partner with whom he will share the happiest moments and the one who will laugh at your silly jokes. Sharing these happy moments constructs the solid base of any relationship. If you have got the woman who laughs at your jokes then take care of her and never let her leave.

6. She shares easily

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People who share their personal life with others are considered welcoming and seems to have a open heart. Life becomes much easier when you get to spend it with a person who never hides and is always open to you in any case.

7. She supports you

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A strong woman is the one who supports your goals and pursue her own. She will constantly motivate you to achieve your goals and will share an independent status with you. She will help you prioritize your goals and will not become a constant cause of nagging in your life.

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8. She has a strong relation with her parents

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Want to know how strongly you would remain connected to your partner? Look how her parents are as a couple! Not only her behavior with her parents is necessary but also your understanding with your parents counts as well. This is how you perform better in your relationship.

9. Kindness is her attribute

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Kindness is the quality which prevails in long lasting relationships. Building a culture of respect and kindness in a relationship marks that you will stay happy in your relation and woman who practices such culture makes sure that they will stay together with their life partner.

10. She practices calmness during fights

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Just like love, fights are a part of a relationship. If you never fight at all you might not be in healthy relationship but important thing is how well you communicate with each other in order to deal with any disagreements and later make up for them. If your woman knows the art of calming herself during a fight she is a keeper.

11. She does foolish stuff with you

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Happy are those couples who enjoy each other’s company, who compromise together, who take care of each other and who does stupid things together and at the end stay together. If your woman has no objection on you coming home late after you cool off with your buddies, instead she join you in your weirdness, then never let her go, stick with her forever.

12. She has a life of her own

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When people have their own set of goals to work with and their own interests in life and they are capable of living their life according to their set of rules and live in a frenzy state with their friends are more healthy and happy individuals and they tend to spread happiness around.

13. Accepting your flaws

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If the woman you are with accepts you the way you are and never criticizes you on your behavior or dressing etc, consider yourself lucky and never let her go. Accepting you with your flaws mean that she genuinely wants to spend time with you and want you as your partner.

14. She doesn’t believe in revenge

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If a woman have a trait of forgiving others, then there is a great possibility of her standing by your side for a long time. Moreover if there is forgiveness in a relationship it will prove to be a healthy relationship. Anyone is capable of making mistakes and no one is perfect but if you have got a woman who practices such quality then take good care of her.

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The Real Causes of Depression Are Not What You Think

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses but not in the least any less serious. Its symptoms are often inconspicuous and many people suffer from its behavioral challenges without knowing the reason behind them. However, it is also one of the most diagnosed mental ailments and if you think you need help and seek it the chances are that a professional will easily diagnose the reason why you are feeling a certain way.

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If you see a mental health professional and they diagnose you with depression it is highly likely that they would explain this illness as a chemical imbalance in your brain and if need be they might even prescribe you medication (anti-depressants), which will restore the chemical balance and you will start feeling better.

However, for many people, this procedure does not work. As long as they keep taking the drugs they feel fine, but as soon as they decrease the dose or stop taking it, the symptoms start to come back.

Here are some of the facts that explain why it is not that simple to treat depression for some people:

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Scientists use the Hamilton Scale to measure depression. It is a scale from 0, at which you would be bouncing with ecstasy to 59, at which you would be suicidal. Improving your sleep cycle improves your scale for around 6 points and chemical antidepressants can improve your scale by around 1.8 points. The effect is no doubt real but also minimal. For people who are at the far end of the scale, it is just not enough to bring them out of depression. There is a need to expand our options when it comes to treating depressed or anxious people.

You would be surprised to know that a lot of scientists do not agree with the notion that depression is caused due to a chemical imbalance. In fact, there could be up to nine factors that are responsible for depression, out of which only two are biological and seven are social or environmental. The causes can be quite polar and play out in different ways in that person’s life.

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For example, childhood trauma causes the risk of depression to increase manyfold. If you, unfortunately, suffered a traumatic event as a child for example sexual or emotional abuse, neglect can make you 3,100 percent more likely to attempt to commit suicide as an adult, and more than 4,000 percent more likely to be an injecting drug user. The questions arise that why do the people who have had unhealthy childhoods behave in similar ways? Why are they more likely to adopt self-destructive behaviors like obesity, addiction or in extreme cases suicide.

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There is a theory that people who had problematic childhoods behave this way because as a child you have little control over your environment and state of things around you. You are often helpless in stopping somebody from hurting you. So, two way of thoughts open up to you, either you admit to yourself that you are truly powerless and there may be nothing you can do to stop someone from hurting you or you believe that whatever someone is doing to you is your fault. In thinking the latter you convince yourself that you do have some power. This way blaming yourself for the trauma protects you from admitting how vulnerable you were. If it was your fault then somehow it was under your control

This state of mind is also toxic because if you believe you were responsible for getting hurt it also means that you somehow deserved it. You may be prone to take accepting abuse as an adult too because you think that is all you deserve. It can be really hard living with this notion in your head which was once a defense mechanism.

Fortunately, not all hope is lost. Just having someone to ask you ” I know you went this trauma in your childhood and I am so sorry it happened to you. Would you like to talk about it?” can do wonders. Being able to discuss your trauma, having someone to listen to your story and tell you it was not your fault can lead to surprisingly positive changes. Just being able to do that can reduce the chances of future illnesses. Just the act of releasing your shame can be healing.

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More than chemical imbalances in your brain, depression, and anxiety are caused by the events happening in your life. It can due to a feeling of worthlessness, feeling like your job is meaningless or being lonely and not being able to confide in people around you. First one needs to realize that it completely okay to have these thoughts and feel these things. You are not alone in your suffering and many people will be able to relate to you, second, do what you have to do to break free of these underlying causes.

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Before we get to the point of the post, we’d like to tell you that we appreciate the feedback we’ve been receiving from our videos and we’re glad we’ve brought you stories that have inspired you all! It makes us happy that your responses are positive and we hope to keep making better content for all our viewers to enjoy.

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Now on the subject of feedback, a lot of you have been wanting to know where the music(Born realist background music) we’ve been using in our videos is coming from. So we decided that it was best to let you know that the music we use is free and can be used by anyone who wishes to. Also, we’d like to clarify that it hasn’t been created by Born Realist itself.

Please keep leaving your queries and comments. Your feedback helps us create better content. Have a fine week, and here’s the music:

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8 Worst Ways To Die According to Scientists

Dying is going to be pretty bad either way, at least I think so, and the really scary thing is that no one is ever going to know how bad it actually feels before they go. Morbid, I know. But the thing is, some ways of dying are worse than others. Like burning on a stake is so much worse than dying softly in your sleep. And getting crucified is probably a lot more awful than dying of old age. So, we decided to write the worst possible ways of dying, let us know which one you think is the worst way to die.

Getting Burned:

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Now, this is probably one of the worst ways to go. When the burning starts, you’ll experience these toxic fumes and you’ll be lucky if they kill you before the fire starts burning off your flesh. At the start, the fire will start burning away your external skin and you will experience immense pain and will your body will struggle to break you free of the place where you’re burning in the first place. When the fire is done burning off the external layer, it’ll move towards your muscles until finally, your heart stops because of the interrupted circulation of blood.

Starvation:

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Several people starve to death every year, and it can be one of the worst ways to go. Starvation can be slow and painful because the body resists and you are able to feel yourself dying slowly as the process initiates. At the start, your body will start consuming your fat and will slowly move on to your muscle when it doesn’t have a choice, finally after it doesn’t have anything else to keep you going its going to die out.

Dehydration:

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The body is made almost completely out of the water. Now, imagine it running out of its most major constituent. Dehydration follows almost the same path that starvation does, the body starts taking water from its organs and eventually as the days go on, it starts shutting them down, before finally ending it all because of serious organ failure.

Decapitation:

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Decapitation is one of the most painful ways to die and is a favorite method of killing in several tribes and has been popular over history. But people don’t know is that the head stays conscious a few seconds after the head has been removed from the body. Now imagine being conscious when something like that has happened, and whats even worse is that it usually takes more than one swing to take off a head. Imagine enduring something of the sort.

Lethal injection:

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The thing with lethal injections is that sometimes the dose given is too low and leaves the person it is delivered to writhing in pain and groaning before the chemical shuts down the vital organs. And while a quick and swift is often merciful, lethal injections can be a lot more painful than most of the things on this list.

Electric chair:

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The electric chair is probably one of the scariest inventions. Death by electric chair delivers a shock that boils the blood and electrifies nerves, but sometimes the shock isn’t enough to kill the person at once, there have been recorded instances when people have been fired for a whole ten minutes.

Buried alive:

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There have been instances of people being buried alive in the past. Imagine suffocating under the pressure and weight of so much dirt, getting an early grave before its even your time. The thought of already being in your grave is worse than actually dying.

Radiation:

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Radiation doesn’t give you super powers, seriously, it kills you and causes cancer and retards the brain when in high doses. In-fact radiation can singlehandedly retard your brain cells and can destroy your organs one by one.

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