How Narcissistic Are You?

Narcissistic people are all around us, some of us may have an awful condescending boss, a few of us been prey to a bully who thinks he or she is better because either they’re good looking or rich. But how narcissistic are we ourselves?

Have you ever found yourself being a bit too nasty to someone, or have you ever found yourself thinking that you’re really special, do you need praise all the time, do you think you’ve been born with unimaginable beauty or intelligence?

To help you decide if you are or aren’t or if you’re mildly narcissistic we’ve penned down a list of questions that you can answer and decide for yourself as we explain them to you.

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“Narcissism falls among the axis of what pshycologist call personality disorders, one of the group that includes antisocial, dependent, histrioninc, avoidant, and boarderline personalities. But by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.” -Jeffery Kluger

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A lot of Narcissism is considered a personality disorder and if you have taken a few quizzes and feel yourself resonating with the symptoms it is advisable that you consult an expert and seek advice from someone qualified.

1. Do you feel affection towards your romantic partners? (are you narcissistic?)

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One of the biggest problems narcissistic people have is that they are cold towards the people they come across in their lives and only indulge in romantic relationships for their own gain and leave as soon as they have achieved whatever motives they have set out to achieve.

Note: Take our article as a detailed are you narcissistic? quiz and make sure you go over each of these points carefully, they will help you examine if someone is showing signs of narcissism, how to deal with a narcissist, narcissistic behavior, or narcissistic disorder. For those of you who want to stop being narcissistic, you should get on the road the recovery with this small self-examination before you move on to therapy.

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A person who isn’t a narcissist will not feel that way, they won’t be cold and will eventually develop feelings towards a person that they have started spending time with, and even if their relationship is merely for convenience they will not want to hurt the person or cause them pain or any harm.

2. Do you believe you were born special? (are you narcissistic?)

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Several narcissistic people feel that they are special gifts on our planet and believe that because of this they deserve special attention. Because of this perception, they believe everyone around them is unable to properly understand them and so they spend their lives believing that they have misunderstood geniuses and so they have an excuse to be rude to everyone. A normal person does not behave like that and while some people do fall prey overconfidence, it doesn’t mean that they think that they are naturally better than everyone.

3. Do you believe you will be successful (are you narcissistic)?

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Everyone wants to be successful and truly having a positive attitude and believing that you will eventually be successful gets you one step closer to your goal, but believing that you were destined to be successful because you were born superior and with extreme talent and beauty is an extremely narcissistic thing to do. A narcissistic can’t get it in their heads that everyone is born equal and that we are all similar yet different and so every human being is born individual and special in his or her own way. They seem to think that they deserve all the good in the world because it is their birthright, this kind of mindset usually leads them to live life with a superiority complex.

4. Do you believe that you were born to rule the world? (are you narcissistic?)

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Believe it or not, a narcissist believes that he or she is a natural leader and can probably do a better job of running the world than anyone else can. Mind that wanting to bring change and take responsibility is a good habit and deciding to run for office doesn’t automatically make you a narcissist, but believing that no one has half your brain and so you should rule over everyone else does qualify you a narcissist.

The humble man makes room for progress, the proud man believes he is already there.

5. Have you ever upgraded from a person? (are you narcissistic?)

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Sometimes when narcissistic people become successful they suddenly decide that the people around them no longer suit the new status that they have achieved, and so they decide to “replace” these people and find new people that are ready to come at their beck and call and leave people the friends and people that they once were around behind. This behavior cannot be expected from a normal and good person with good moral standing.

6. Do you need to be praised constantly? (are you narcissistic?)

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Narcissistic people have to be constantly praised and need people around them who can keep boosting their egos and making them feel special, they usually like having people around them who are ready to constantly stay in their shadow and make them feel better about themselves.

Narcissistic people make their romantic partners feel miserable and instead of bringing them up and making them feel special they destroy their partner’s self-esteem and make them feel worse every day in an attempt to make themselves shine brighter.

This behavior cannot be expected from someone decent, everyone however rotten they may be on the inside, cannot really live without caring for their loved ones.

In the end (are you narcissistic?)

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Narcissism is considered a personality disorder and a person who is completely narcissistic should talk to an expert and get help, but if you’re mildly narcissistic sometimes and aren’t a complete jerk to people, you should be in the clear. Of course, it is important to take note that nothing we’ve written should be taken as medical advice. If you feel you have any mental problem you should consult a doctor and get help. It’s also important to understand that even a narcissistic person can change for the better, all that’s really required is a change of perspective. We should all continue to improve and humble ourselves, because only by spreading love and by helping others move forward can we turn our society into a better place for the future generations to come.