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We all have wished at some point in our lives to convince someone to do something we want. Persuasion is a skill which not everyone can master. What if it was possible to get someone to agree with what to have to say through a scientific method?

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NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. As the name suggests it encompasses three components: Neurology, Language and Programming. It deals with the correlation of the mind, language and its combined effect on our behaviour. Its groundwork was laid down by John Grinder and Richard Bandle. John Grinder had a background in linguistics and Richard Bandle was a gestalt therapist and had a history of mathematics as well.

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It is a complicated process based on the understanding of mental and cognitive processes behind human behaviour. It is another step in the direction of self-discovery, a better understanding of the human intelligence and effective communication.

Our better understanding of the inner workings of a human mind and how it is wired helps us to realize how our words and actions are perceived by others and what do we need to say or do in order to produce our desired results regarding how others behave. If we want to influence someone’s actions and get them to do our bidding, we need to use the right language and say the correct keywords. Only then it will have the desired effect on their behaviour.

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With some practice, you can learn and implement these simple tricks based on the NLP into your life and convince people of anything you want.

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Concealed Commands

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Imagine a scenario in which you are waiting tables at a restaurant. A guest walks in and you need to convince them to order a starter a from the menu other than the main course. When taking their order after they order their main course you ask “What would you like to start with?” You are wordlessly commanding them to order a starter. It will make them rethink their choice of not ordering a starter and even if they still not order one, it will at least make them look at the menu again.  Instead, if you had said “Would you like a starter?” or “Any starters?” it would have been easy for them to just say “No, thank you.” With this simple change in sentencing, you can increase the chances of them ordering a starter.

Limiting the options

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When you ask somebody “Earl Grey or green tea?” or “Would you like tea or coffee?”, Apparently you are giving them a choice but actually, you are just giving them a choice in the type of beverage they want. Not if they want something to drink or not. If you had asked them “Would you like something to drink?”, they would have replied in a yes or no hence giving them the choice. They still can refuse to drink anything at all but the former way of saying it makes it harder for them to say no by limiting their options.

I Could, But I’d Rather Not

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If you’re in a situation where you could do something but you would like the other person to do it for you, for example, if you the trash in your apartment needs to be thrown out and you would rather that your partner does it. Therefore, you say “Hey, I can throw out the trash if you want.” with a slight emphasis on the words ‘if you want’. It will put the responsibility of that action on them and they are most likely to say “It’s okay, I will throw it out myself.”Win-win.

The culprit ‘But’

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But is a powerful word that can impact others opinions heavily. It matters a lot what you say before and after that word and it impacts the way people perceive that thing. For example, if say you say to someone “That restaurant has great food but their seating arrangement is a little congested.”, the person will immediately think the restaurant is not worth going to. Alternatively, if you had said “The seating of that restaurant is a little congested but the food is great.” the seating arrangement would not matter to the person as much and they will still be willing to go there.

Learn their deepest desires

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It can prove to be a challenge to figure out what people really want.  It’s often left to guesswork which leads us to interpret their meaning wrong and create a communication gap. But that can be avoided. If you ask someone what they want, they will usually tell you what they do not want. However, you can still take control of the conversation and instead maybe ask them “If money and distance was not a factor, where would you wish to travel?”. This way, they will be forced to delve deep into their minds and better answer your question. Often times people do not think of scenarios that they think will not likely happen in real life. Hence, they become out of touch with their desires.


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By removing the boundaries of practicality, you are forcing them to look deep into their own minds. Only then can you learn about a person’s deepest aspirations when they discover it about themselves first.

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Incorporating these tricks into your daily communication can make you a much more persuasive person without being manipulative. However, NLP is a vast field of study and there are much more powerful communication tools to be learnt which can not only be implemented in our personal lives but in professional areas like psychotherapy, education, law etc. There is still lots to learn but this seems like a good place to start.

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Here Are 24 Tweets That Prove Pets Change Lives for the Better

Pets are amazing. They can easily become your best friend and these hilarious tweets prove that there is never a dull moment with them:


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15 Intelligent Hacks To Take Your Life To The Next Level

Adjusting how you approach an issue can have a major effect. Rather than getting to be noticeably disappointed each time you need to finish an errand, you can make it easy. All you require is an existence hack. While these critical thinking thoughts can here and there skirt on the edge of craziness, there are some really accommodating ones. Here are our few favorites. Have you at any point go over something and thought, “How the damnation did that arrive here?” It’s an easy win that these mortgage holders articulated those exceptional words—or something near them—when they found these things under their floorboards. You will love reusing and repurposing old family materials into convenient new thoughts. Attempt our 15 genius reused create thoughts to reuse your old things. Try not to miss any of these super hacks.

1. An old glasses case turned into a sewing kit.

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Find any old and useless glasses kit and turn it into some useless storage kit. Find out more here.

2. The ultimate dust collector.

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No need to worry about spilling the dust all over o the floor anymore. Just paste this folded paper on the wall with some masking tape and it will make sure no dust falls off on the floor.

3. A very stylish jewelry/earnings holder.

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Take a useless or broken picture frame and remove the glass very carefully. Thread a wire from one side of the frame to another, and add your dangling earrings on the wire for quite shabby chic display. Find out more here.

4. Re purpose mason jars into a trendy herb garden.

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Do not waste the empty jars. Rather upcycle them into your herb garden. Find out more here

5. Vinyl record to fruit bowl

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Do not discard your old and damaged vinyl records. They can be carved into bowls that could add to your kitchen accessories. See details here.

6. Rubber bands are used to prevent clothes falling off.

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It is the easiest and effective life hack. See detailed instructions here.

7. Magical mason jar lanterns.

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Putting your jar with such a use will create an enchanting aura in your backyard. See how to craft these here.

8. Convert an old T-shirt into a cushion

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Turn your better half’s old shirts into a beautiful cushion covers. See here for detailed instructions.

9. Create a hairpin holder

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Expel flyaways with a trusty bobby stick pack for your tote. Simply supplant the name with some designed tape and voila! Discover more here.

10. Turn a colorful colander into a flower basket.

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Brilliant, trendy, and shoddy. Splash paint your old colander, line it with arranging material, join some durable chains, and hang it with your most loved blossoms. Discover more here.

11. Organize your jeans with shower hooks

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Compose your pants with cheap shower snares for a fast method to snatch them toward the beginning of the day. Hang them by the waist band to abstain from wrinkling. Discover more here.

12. Nonstick snow

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Generously apply olive oil shower to your plastic or metal scoop before moving snow to keep away from a development of shake hard ice.

13. Plastic bag wraps for gardening

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Stop any planting soil or grime from destroying your most loved pants with plastic pack wraps. Essentially wrap your knees with plastic sacks and voila!

14. Protect doorknobs with aluminum foil

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Firmly cover your doorknobs with aluminum thwart to stay away from any paint spills. This is the ideal answer for “uh oh!” minutes.

15. Moisture-absorbing chalk to fight tarnishing

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Wrap two bits of chalk in some cheesecloth, and add them to your flatware. This will moderate any discoloring!

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This Game Will Change Your Perspective Of Strategy Decision Based Gaming Forever!

Sid Meier’s Civilization VI needs little introduction, but let me give you one anyway. The game takes you to the start of civilization and lets you choose between 5 empires giving you starting advantages and leaving you in the multiplayer setup, letting you make the decisions yourself and allowing you to advance from the stone age to the age of information, giving you the option of achieving world domination in any way that pleases you; may it be through establishing diplomatic relations, blowing the other civilizations to bit, or making it to the moon before anyone else does.

In short, Sid Meier’s Civilization is the kind of game that keeps you up at nights and its latest version is out and on sale on Born Realist Shop. So, there are five ways to achieve victory in Sid Meier’s Civilization IV. Which will you choose?

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Civilization VI is the Winner of 15 E3 Awards, including Best PC Game and Best Strategy Game and has around 35 million units worldwide since its creation, creating a huge community of players attempting to build an empire to stand the test of time, are you a civilization veteran? Or maybe you’re a beginner, either way, the game is both strategically challenging and easy enough to interact with and will be entertaining in any case! You can even interact with your friends or compete against them making this that perfect multiplayer you’ve been looking for.

The best thing is that Sid Meier’s Civilization VI is available at a special discount on Born Realist Shop! So are you ready to play the most immersive and challenging game of your life? Get Sid Meier Civilization VI today! You can buy it here!




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